The Myth of Independence

Many young adults assume they are on a road to independence.  They have pasted the years when parents or someone had to help them all the time. At first every need from eating to well - you know - had to be taken care of by someone else.  That was the dependant stage.  Over the years more independence occurs and it should.  However, total independence is not the end goal.  In fact total independence is a myth and would be very lonely and unrewarding.  The real end game is something called interdependence.  Interdependence involves an appropriate amount of independence mixed with a good healthy amount of dependence too. 

God never intended for man to be alone.  In fact He said that it wasn't good.  From the start He gave man a woman. Later they became a family and eventually friendships occurred as well.  All of these represent dependency. As you transition into less dependence on family and friends, don't make the mistake of trying to become too independent, self reliant and proud or resistant to advice.  Remember you'll need parents for advice and wisdom, you'll need family for support and enjoyment, and you’ll need teachers, friends, pastors and others too.  In addition, remember they need you as well.  Support them, encourage them, talk to them, thank them, listen to them, and love them.

Finally, I'd be wrong if I didn't remind you of a truth I am sure you know.  Ultimately, our complete dependence is on God, our faithful loving friend.  Strive for interdependence. Enjoy needing others and be someone people need.